Phone Sex can definitely be an exciting way to add some spice to your sex life, no matter if you’re in a short distance relationship or a committed one. However, most folks just aren’t comfortable to start it, especially for their first time. If you’re interested in adding phone sex into your sexual arsenal, then here’s the right guide for you. Read on…
First, it’s important to make sure your partner is comfortable with it before starting. This might take a little sensitivity, but if you two are real life lovers, chances are your partner would already be comfortable with phone sex. It takes a lot less energy and work to have a phone sex session than it does to do it in person. Phone Sex takes away any awkwardness by eliminating the need to go somewhere private. Plus, it’s always easy to find another excuse to excuse yourself!
Second, be prepared to answer questions. Phone Sex is not the same as setting, which involves sharing very explicit details about your partner. Phone Sex is simply a phone conversation between two people-one on one, so if your partner wants to sext, all he/she needs to do is call you, and the both of you can get down to business.
And third, once your partner says “call you” or “sext”, be ready to jump right in. The key to successful phone sex is to turn it into an intimate conversation. Many women tell me that they don’t often initiate dirty talk, and when they do it usually ends up embarrassing their partners. So pay attention to what your partner says, and use it to build a playful, erotic conversation.
Another great reason for using phone sex as a sexual activity is that there’s no physical contact necessary. This makes it a good way for women who prefer to feel the sexual contact of a full-body massage but don’t want to take the risk of being intimate. Also, a good way for women to learn more about their partners’ preferences.
Another big reason for using phone sex is to “look like” your partner when you’re on the phone. If you’re on the phone in bed making out, it might look like you’re trying too hard. But when you’re on the phone sexing, you just relax and let things happen. Your partner can’t see you; so it looks like you’ve just turned into the opposite sex. Great for turning up the heat!
Some women also use phone sex as a way of “discovering themselves”. Maybe your partner has some sexy fantasies that you haven’t heard of (or even fantasized about) and by talking them through in bed, you can start to “play to your partner’s fantasies”. You might start to realize things about your partner that you never imagined, such as how much they like certain perfume or food. By using this method, you can help your partner feel more comfortable with “coming between” you and perhaps even start “feeling for” him/her more!
Finally, phone sex is great for relieving stress and giving pleasure during long phone-sex sessions. Think about it: what’s better than a phone sex session where you can talk dirty for hours on end, with no physical contact required? Or what about a steamy, saucy steam session in the privacy of your own home? Whatever the case may be, remember that your partner deserves the opportunity to experience being with you in ways other than face-to-face. Use this opportunity to turn your partner on, make love to them, and keep the fire burning!
Another great thing about talking on the phone is that it allows you to explore your fantasies freely and not have to feel embarrassed or awkward if those fantasies don’t translate well over the phone. The great thing about talking to your phone sex therapist is that he/she will be able to tell if there are any red flags when it comes to talking dirty on the phone. For example, if you have some phobias or other negative thoughts about phone sex that you’d like to overcome, your sex therapist can give you extra tips and/or therapy that will allow you to overcome those issues. Talking to a good sex therapist can really help you get over any kind of hurdle that may come up during your phone session. After all, it’s better to talk dirty during a “warm” phone conversation than “cold” one!
One of the things that a lot of people who are uncomfortable with talking dirty over the phone have is the feeling of being insecure because they’re worried that they’re going to sound like a pervert. That’s not true. A good, caring phone conversation doesn’t sound like a pervert at all! In fact, most people who have their feelings hurt over phone conversations actually end up sounding more uncouth in real life than they did on the phone. So, even if you are thinking that you’ll sound like a rotten meat, remember that it’s a lot harder to act like a pervert when you are talking to someone who is literally right next to you!
Finally, make sure that you take the time to really relax before you start dirty talking. If you’re not in the best mood for dirty talking, make sure you find a few quiet moments in which you can think about happy things, and how great your day was. This will put you in the mood for really great phone sex! Phone Sex can be lots of fun, and if you do your homework before hand, it can be even better!
